“How much did you spend on the wedding?”, “When are you planning to have children?”, “Why did you choose this wedding presenter?” – after such questions one sometimes feels like paralyzed, and the right answer does not immediately come to mind . Don’t let the tactlessness of others spoil your wedding: set personal boundaries and find a polite way to answer the questions. And the duo of moderators Fasol will explain how this is best achieved.
How can you learn to be more confident in answering stupid questions?
Since such an answer can cause difficulties for many women (and men too), it would be good to “practice” it. You need to say these phrases out loud: “I don’t want to talk about this topic”, “I don’t want to discuss this”, “I’m not ready to talk about this.” Say the phrases confidently so that you can hear yourself from the outside (You can even do this in front of a mirror). Practice a few times: It can be difficult at first, but then it becomes familiar. And don’t be afraid to offend the person you’re talking to. There’s nothing offensive about the rejection: you simply mark the line that you don’t want anyone to cross.
How do you answer tactless questions?
Some questions may touch on issues that are painful to a person that they don’t want to discuss with others. For situations like this, we recommend several ways to protect yourself and your nerves.
One option is to briefly say, “I don’t want to talk about this.” A very simple response that makes clear your “area” that you don’t want anyone in. This phrase is universal: it lends itself to any tactless question.
The second option is to answer jokingly: after that, as a rule, the questions end. For example, to the question, “When do you want to start having kids?” you can answer, “You first!”, “I can’t even get along with our dog,” “As soon as we start, we’ll call you,” ” It depends on how much you give us for our wedding.”
Another option is to discourage the person with a counter question. This is where the “hot potato” principle works: they threw you a sentence, and you threw it back. For example, to the question: “When do you plan to have children?” you can answer: “When do you plan to?”. “How much did you spend on the wedding?” – “How much did you spend / plan to spend on your wedding?”. This method, like the first, is universal. A joke doesn’t always come up in time – and it’s up to everyone to ask a similar question and remain calm and confident.
